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KNOW YOUR MAN’S SUPERHERO CHARACTER

Why most men are fascinated with superheroes?according to an article from cosmopolitan magazine- may be because they saw some reflections of their personalities with those fictional cartoon characters. Find out below who they worshipped and how their character spikes behind those magnificent costumes.

SUPERMAN
Let’s buckle up and fly!..If your boyfriend’s favorite superhero is Superman, he is the quintessential “nice guy” — he’s loyal, believes that people are inherently good, and is always ready to save the day. A guy who digs the Man of Steel usually has the same traits. So, while you may not need your man to save you from a burning building, he’ll love it if you ask for his advice or help in mini-crisis — whether it’s changing a flat or settling you down after a fight with a pal. In other words? Score! But his desire to rescue people might not stop with you. He’s the type to fill his days helping his mom and doing favors for friends. If you feel like his time is monopolized by being a little too good to others, just pipe up and he’ll be responsive.

 

 

BATMAN 
Batman — aka Bruce Wayne — drives a badass car, dates supermodels, is rolling in dough and terribly irresistible with those black, amazing cape. So, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why he appeals to your dude. But the Caped Crusader also has a darker side — his parents were killed by criminals, and that’s why he has set out to fight the bad guys. Batman avoids getting close to most people and is sort of a loner. So, your guy may share his dangerously dashing appeal, but you may also have to work a little harder to get him to open up. Some guys are really not easily to open up, it leaves you wondering how he feels, what he is thinking and what’s the damn truth.

 

THE HULK
 This superhero goes from the quiet, reserved Bruce Banner to the big, green Hulk whenever he gets pissed off. Scary, right? But no worries; this character means well, he just lets his feelings overwhelm him. A guy who tells you that The Hulk is his favorite is likely to be the type who gets caught up in emotions and may even have the occasional outburst. Here’s the bright side: You’ll never have to guess how he feels. That said, if you do sense him getting worked up, it may be best to give him some space until he calms down or figures out his emotions.

Source: Cosmopolitan website http://www.cosmopolitan.com

FASTEST WAY OF CURING ACNE AND PIMPLE

Acne and pimples are the most irritating skin problems of the youth today, even adults are not spared from acquiring these frustrating outbreaks. Here are some tips to get rid of those pestering bacteria faster.

 

WASH YOUR FACE

One of the most effective regimen in treating acne starts with washing your face, use mild soap with no irritating perfume and ingredients. Ivory mild soap and carrot based soap are just some of the best choices since they effectively eliminate excess oil in the skin surface.

 

BENZOL PEROXIDE AND SALICYLIC ACID

Buy products with ingredients like Benzol Peroxide and Salicylic acid; they kill bacteria-causing acne and pimples faster. After washing your face with mild soap, pat it dry and apply a pea size of the product with the above-mentioned ingredients around the affected area. Ideal application is during night time to have a more relax texture. The swelling will dry out the following morning and you are pimple free.

 

AVOID TOO MUCH SUN EXPOSURE

Even if you have no skin outbreaks, too much exposure to the sun is not a good idea because it can cause premature aging. The harshness of UV rays can trigger dryness of the skin making it prone to outbreaks. Protect yourself by applying sun block with SPF 20 and with green tea special ingredients. Green tea is anti-inflammatory and anti-bacterial; it protects skin from pollution and damages.

 

EAT PLENTY OF FRUITS AND VEGETABLES

It is now a universal rule to eat plenty of fruits and vegetables because of various health benefits it contains. They are loaded with essential vitamins and minerals necessary for cleansing and detoxifying our body. Eat foods rich in fibers, beta-carotene, collagen, vitamin B-complex and amino fatty acids, they are good in fighting free-radicals and inflammation.

 

TAKE FOOD SUPPLEMENTS 

Vitamin A supplement is known to quickly renew skin cells leaving it free from inflammation, therefore giving you free from bacteria attack, Vitamin C is the supplier of collagen in the body, responsible for maintaining skin elasticity making it looks younger and smoother. Glutathione supplement is not only ideal for those who dream to whiten their skin but also to those who have facial problems like acne and pimple. Glutathione is a master antioxidant and central detoxifier that cleanse digestive tract making it toxic-free.

 

AVOID JUNK AND FATTY FOODS

Refrain from eating junk foods because they lacked essential nutrients for the skin, they have nothing but salts and other artificial flavoring. Fatty foods are those saturated fats that build up bad cholesterol and harmful elements that may result to chronic diseases in the future. It also makes skin oily and worn out.

DRINK PLENTY OF WATER AND SLEEP WELL

Drink plenty of water everyday to flush out bacteria-causing germs. In the absence of water intake the skin is more prone to dryness and greasiness causing inflammation and other irritations which may result to pimples and acne. Lack of sleep often makes the skin dry and rough which lead to outbreaks, try to take a habit of getting enough sleep to give your skin enough rest.

 

APPLY HOME MADE RECIPES INSTEAD OF COMMERCIAL

Try this beauty tips at home: 1 teaspoon of honey, 1 kalamansi juice, small amount of cinnamon powder and half mashed banana. Mixed all the ingredients until became fluffy. Wash your face with lukewarm water then pat dry, apply the mixture and leave it for 1 hour, then wash with cold water. Your skin became smooth, pimple free and young looking.

 

SECRET TO A BEAUTIFUL, YOUNG-LOOKING SKIN

Having beautiful skin gives us enough freshness and youthful glow, like sweet-scented flowers in the orchard

Having beautiful skin is like fresh and sweet-scented flowers in the orchard

Women generally are beauty conscious and vain, we spent enormous amount of time looking at the mirror, checking those sagging features and other unwanted adds-on “sign of progress”. Sometimes it horrifies us to see those irritating warts and lines slowly appearing in our precious skin, dark spots and other form of blemishes only add up to frustrations.

But before we began to freak wildly for these exasperating skin enemies and scampered on beauty products, we must first double check our lifestyle. Our physical appearance partly depends on what we dump in our stomach, greasy and fatty foods are often the culprit of rough and unwanted skin tones. We must bear in mind that unhealthy lifestyle contributed more to premature aging, forcing our body to accumulate free radicals. In addition, drinking alcohol, according to many health professionals, can triggers body cell deterioration, so it must be avoided. To protect our body cells and maintain those youthful glow, here are some practical tips to consider.

1. Limit sun exposure– this can badly damage the elasticity of the skin. UV rays can caused skin irritations and wrinkles. When engaging in outdoor activities, try to cover yourself by wearing long brimmed hat, longsleeves and scarf. Don’t forget to apply sunblock with SPF 20+ for additional skin protection.

2. Get plenty of rest and sleep– our body needs enough rest to relax our tired muscles, various health bulletin already warned the public that lack of sleep and rest can lead to deterioration of body cells. If we don’t have enough sleep, dark circles around eyes are visible making us look old and worn out.

3. Get some body stretching and mild exercise-mild exercise doesn’t requires you to rush to the nearest gym for a rigorous work out, walking and jogging are enough formula to stretch tired muscles. Climbing up stairs is more ideal than going up with elevators or escalators. Stretch your arms and feet when waking up in the morning before making a trip to the bathroom.

4. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and drink a lot of water-fruits and vegetables are very ideal to maintain supple and smooth skin. Vegetables and fruits moderate weight gain in the body, plus they are loaded with vitamins and minerals that can be easily absorbed, preventing clogs in the digestive system and allows regular blood flow. Fiber rich foods help the body removed toxic and other waste materials including unwanted calories. These can help the skin visibly radiant. Drink plenty of water to flush off bacteria and retain the skin’s natural moisture.

5. Take antioxidants, especially Lycopene-Lycopene is a powerful antioxidant which helps the skin fights premature aging. According to some studies conducted, it is twice stronger than beta-carotene and ten times stronger than vitamin E. It also plays a vital role in protecting the skin against damages from the sun. It is being said that unsalted Tomato puree has abundant content of Lycopene, other sources include, grapefruit, guava, water melon and fresh tomato. 

6. Eating habits and home made remedies-try this at home, boil 2 peeled carrots and potatoes and make it as your snacks instead of junk foods. Try mixing banana, honey and fresh milk and use it as body scrub and facial scrub, with weekly application, your body and face will have an even skin tone and look smoother and younger. Avoid too much soft drinks, it will only dries up your skin. Important note:according to a health home magazine, cola drink and coffee which are categorized as caffeinated beverages, can block the absorption of Folate-a B vitamin group necessary for renewal of skin cells. Folate is also recommended for women who are in the childbearing stage because this helps prevent birth deffects. But most of all, stay positive towards life, it helps radiate your skin both inside and out.

Understanding Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)and how it can be prevented

WHAT IS UTI?
UTI stands for Urinary tract Infection, it commonly affects the bladder (sometimes ureters and kidneys) because of the presence of bacteria in the urinary tract system. The urinary tract system of the human body is composed of tubes and containers necessary to store and remove urine from the body. The upper tract placed kidneys which produce urine by removing waste and water from the blood. The lower tract has two narrow tubes called ureters that connect the kidneys. The urine, when stored in the body travels down to the narrow ureters and stuck up in the bladder, at the bottom of the bladder, a small tube can be found, this is called urethra which then removed the urine out of the body.
It is estimated that 50% of women will experience UTI in their lifetime.

HOW UTI DEVELOPED?
Urine is bacteria-free. But if bacteria comes from outside (usually through the urethra), it will slowly develop into UTI. The most common bacteria that will trigger UTI usually occur in the large intestine. The most common type of UTI is bladder infections, scientifically called cystitis. These bacteria moved to the upper tract through ureters causing a kidney infection which is a more serious infection and needs medical attention right away.

SYMPTOMS OF UTI
Sexually transmitted diseases are another reason for UTI. Sexually active women are more prone to UTI and women after menopause. Women who engaged in sex often attracted bacteria to the urinary tract system, menopause women losses estrogen hormones causing the thinning of the urethral tissue therefore prone to bacteria because in the absence of estrogen, vaginal ph changes and reduced the number of good bacteria in the vaginal area to fight bad bacteria. Below are the common symptoms of UTI
a. Burning sensation while urinating
b. Frequent urge to urinate (passing only small amounts)
c. Pressure in the lower part of the abdomen
d. Blood in the urine
e. Bad odor in the urine

WOMEN ARE EASILY THE TARGET OF UTI
UTI usually affects women because of the short length and location of urethra of women compared to men. It is a prime entry point of bacteria to the urinary tract system. Bacteria from the nearby rectal area can migrate to the urethra. Women who are on the post-menopausal stage losses estrogen hormones which enable to body to produce good bacteria around the vaginal area.Using of birth control like spermicide and diaphragm increase the chances of acquiring UTI

MEN ARE AFFECTED TOO
Men can get UTI too, often the result of obstruction flow of urine. Men who are unable to urinate can attract bacteria to the urinary tract system. Another reason is inflamed prostate gland which restrict urine flow

HOW IT CAN BE TREATED
Uncomplicated UTI is commonly treated by antibiotics, left untreated UTI can progress to the upper tract which endangered the kidney.

HOW IT CAN BE PREVENTED
UTI can be prevented by drinking many liquids to flush bacteria, drink a lot of water at least 8 glasses a day, Cranberry juice may be protective because of its too acidic taste which can fight bacteria in the body, take Vitamin C. One must avoid too much soft drinks, salty and junk foods. Soft drinks can dries up the body which can create more bacteria. Urinate frequently when you feel the urge to urinate, bacteria will grow when urine stays in the bladder for too long. For sexually active individuals, urinate after each sexual activity to flush out bacteria.

Sources: health and home magazine and Mayo clinic health bulletin

MISS UNIVERSE CONTROVERSIES

Alicia Machado of Venezuela almost lost her title when she gained too much weight during her reign. The pageant owner, Donald Trump, slighted her by the calling \"the eating machine\"
Dayanara Torres made headlines to the world when she divorced singer Marc Anthony in 2003. fo a while she lived in the Philippines then moved to New YorK city where she is now a television actressFirst Photo: Alicia Machado of Venezuela almost lost her title when she gained too much weight during her reign. Pageant owner, Donald Trump, criticized her weight gain by calling her “an eating machine”. Second Photo:Dayanara Torres of Puerto Rico, she made headlines when she divorced her husband singer Marc anthony in 2003. She lived for five years in the Philippines before she settled down in New York City to pursue an acting and singing career.

Miss Universe, just like any other prestigious event and contest, is mixed with great anticipation and intrigues. Here, the author listed several controversies that happened in one of the oldest beauty pageant in the world.

MIRIAM STEVENSON OF USA (1954)-was the first Miss USA winner of the Miss Universe title in 1954. There it happen the first controversy of the pageant. Miriam tied with Miss Brazil’s Martha Rocha, the organizers decided to break the tie through the pageant’s major sponsor-the Catalina Swimwear, eventually the judging boiled down to who has the greater body. The votes favored Miriam Stevenson, because according to reports, she had the fitter hips compared to Miss Brazil.

GLADYS ZENDER OF PERU(1957)-born on October 1939, Gladys made history as the first Latin woman to win the prestigious Miss Universe title, but she was controversial because of her age. Few months after the pageant, it was revealed that the Peruvian beauty queen was only 17 years old, a year younger than the minimum age requirement of the pageant (18). The pageant organizers however was quick to defend that in Peru a person is considered one year older than their age after 6 months of their actual birthday. She was not dethroned however. She married Antonio Meier in 1965 and had 4 children together. Gladys Zender, the youngest Miss Universe winner ever, chose to live a quiet life away from the glittery world of show business.

AMPARO MUÑOZ OF SPAIN (1974)- born on June 22, 1954 in Spain, Amparo was the only Miss Universe titlist from Spain. She won the title in 1974 in Manila, Philippines. Several months after she was crowned, she gave up her title to pursue a showbiz career. She did not replace by the pageant organizer and managed to keep her crown.

MARITZA SAYALERO OF VENEZUELA (1979)- born on Feb.16,1961 in Caracas, Venezuela, Maritza became the first Venezuelan to win the Miss Unverse title. When she was named Miss Venezuela, her first runner up Maria Fernanda Ramirez refused to accept the result, Ramirez’s family confronted the jury, nevertheless the title secured by Maritza. But another unfortunate event greeted the first few hours of her reign in Perth, Australia where the pageant was held, when the live telecast was over, the stage collapsed due to the presence of so many journalists taking her photos, several contestants were injured including Miss Brazil and Miss Turkey. The audience panicked but Maritza, with her tiara and sash on, had the presence of mind to save one contestant from a hole of the stage. She then went to New York City to serve her term and responded her role with determination to help charities. She married in 1981 to a Mexican tennis player Raul Ramirez and presently lived in Mexico

IRENE SAEZ CONDE OF VENEZUELA (1981)-born in December 13, 1961 was the only Miss Universe titlist who floated to the world of politics. In early 1990’s she served a two term as mayor in the municipality of Chacao, Venezuela. Her performance as mayor gained her a nationwide popularity that in 1997 she was considered a potential presidential candidate, but in the 1998 Venezuelan national election she lost to Hugo Chavez. She regained her political career in 1999 when she won the gubernatorial race in the province of Nueva Esparta but gave up her post in the late 2000 when she got married and moved to Florida, USA.

DAYANARA TORRES OF PUERTO RICO (1993)-born on October 28,1974 in Puerto Rico, Dayanara’s victory in the Miss Universe tilt attracted controversy because she did not win any of the 3 major categories in that pageant held in Mexico. She placed 4th in the question & answer portion, fifth in both swimsuit and evening gown competition, nevertheless, Dayanara proved her worth on the crown, during her reign, she worked endlessly on various charities, she became an ambassador of UNICEF helping underprivileged children through out the world. After her reign, she established a foundation which provided scholarships to children. She lived for five years in the Philippines where she became a well-known TV host, actress and model. After her stint in Philippine television, she moved to Puerto Rico and to the US and started a singing and acting career, she married Latin singer Marc Anthony on May 9, 2000 where she had 2 sons, but on October 2003, they announced the sad news of separation and divorced a year after. Currently, Dayanara is dating American actor Amaury Nolasco. Her ex-husband Marc Anthony married Jennifer Lopez whom he had twins.

SUSHMITA SEN OF INDIA (1994)- born on November 19, 1975 in West Bengal, India, is the daughter of Indian Air force wing commander Shubeer Sen and Subhra Sen, a fashion artist and jewelry designer. In May 10, 1994, Sushmita became the first Indian to win the Miss Unverse title in Manila, Philippnes. The pageant result at first, did not suits well to the fame craze Pinoy audience who favored the Venezuelan bet Minorka Mercado, a towering 6’2 varsity player in volleyball. Sushmita, who was a dark horse during the contest, did not win the crowd’s admiration with her not-so elegant gown and appearance, even in the fearless forecast before the actual show she failed to capture the public’s fantasy, whose favorites were Kristelle Rolandt of Belgium, Areeya Chumsai of Thailand, Minorka Mercado of Venezuela and the home bet Charlene Gonzales. Sushmita only emerged 3rd during the interview portion and fourth on the swimsuit and evening gown competitions. But she impressed the 8 panel of judges, including the hairstylist of Princess Diana- Richard Dalton, with her unique poise, grace and intellect, her winning answer to the final question “What is the essence of being a woman” was inspiring that it became a household quotes among the Filipinos, she said: “A woman is a gift and it should be appreciated, she is the origin of life, therefore should be treated not as a mere sexual object but as an important human being”. After her reign, she joined Bollywood showbiz in India and became a famous actress. At 34, Sushmita Sen, however, is still single but adopted a girl in 2000 whom she named Renee.

ALICIA MACHADO OF VENEZUELA (1996)-born on December 6, 1976 in Maracay, Venezuela, Alicia almost lost her title when she gained too much weight during her reign. As Miss Universe, she was expected to stay fit and trim as she would represent the Miss Universe Organization with glamour and grace. Though Alicia is one of the most beautiful Miss Universe winners ever, she looked haggard and worn out when she ballooned beyond limit. The Miss Universe organization was considering of replacing her with her first runner up Taryn Mansell of Aruba, Alicia, pressured by her title and responsibilities tried hard to loss weight. In the end, she managed to shed off extra pounds and kept her crown. The pageant owner, American billionaire Donald Trump, slighted her with the dismissive title “an eating machine” in the 1997 promotion of the next Miss Universe pageant. After her reign, she made showbiz her lifetime career, debuting on Venezuelan soap opera as “Samantha”, the telenovela, which was shown in Philippine television GMA channel in 2000, was an instant hit. In February 2006, Alicia generated another controversy when she appeared in the Mexican issue of Playboy magazine as centerfold, making her as the only Miss Universe titlist to pose nude for playboy. She got married and gave birth to a daughter last June 2008.

DENISE MARIE QUIÑONEZ OF PUERTO RICO (2001)-born on September 9, 1980 at Ponce, Puerto Rico. She was the first Miss Universe winner to win at home, which gave rise to rumors “ home court decision”. In Miss Universe history, no pageant host country wins the title. Denise bested more than 80 delegates including the crowd favorite (and my favorite too) Greek model Evelina Papantoniou whom journalists regarded as a deserving winner. Denise pursued a movie career after her term.

OXANA FEDOROVA OF RUSSIA (2002)- born on December 17, 1977 in Russia, Oxana is the daughter of a Russian nuclear physicist whom she did not meet, her parents separated when she was 3 years old and she never heard from her father since then. Oxana became the first Russian to be crowned Miss Universe in the 2002 pageant held in Puerto Rico. She graduated from Russia’s Police Academy and became a police officer, later on, she enrolled at the Russian Ministry of Internal affairs University to become an investigator, she also worked as a fashion model. In 2001 she easily won the Miss Russia title but declined to represent Russia in Miss Universe 2001 for unknown reasons, but in 2002 she went on to join the pageant, her glamorous physique made her an event favorite and scored high in three major categories, according to the official tally of scores, she earned an almost perfect score of 9.88 in the swimsuit portion, making her as the only candidate with a highest score for that event in the history of the pageant. But several months after her victory, Oxana was dethroned by Miss Universe organizers for her failures to function on her responsibilities as Miss Universe. In her interview, she denied rumors of pregnancy. She was the only official title holder of Miss Universe who was dethroned and the organization did not recognized her as “former Miss Universe winner”, she was replaced by her first runner up, Justine Pasek of Panama.

SOURCES OF CALORIES

A calorie is a unit of measurement, but it does not measure unit of length. It is a unit of energy. Say for example, a certain food contains 100 calories, it’s a description of how much energy your body can get from eating that particular food. Calories are not bad for our body, in fact human body badly needs calories to get enough amount of energy, but eating too many calories and not burning them could be resulted to weight gain. There are foods containing more calories especially junk foods and fatty foods, but vegetables and fruits contained few calories.

Our body should have balanced activities to moderate weight gain. If you consumed foods with high calories, it is good to burn them with physical activities. But it is not recommended by health experts to burn all the calories your body accumulates, because our lungs and heart need them also to function well. Watching TV is not the most ideal hobby because it makes the body rest and the excess calories will stuck up in the muscles.

Here are the four sources of calories:

ALCOHOL
Among the four sources of calories, alcohol provides higher caloric content, but these calories have no essential vitamins and minerals attached. Alcohol-contained foods is converted into fat, unable to digest carefully, this will be stored in the body, which sometimes triggers obesity. But when taken in moderation, alcohol-contained foods may be beneficial as it increases the level of high density lipoproteins in the body. Too much alcohol intake has bad effect to over all health as this may contribute to diseases such as multiple liver failure, brain damage, weakening of the heart muscles and premature aging, it can also increased the risk of all forms of cancer. Red wine, according to some health studies, shows some beneficial effects because of the presence of resveratrol in grape skin, an antioxidant that helps slow cardiovascular diseases like hardening of the artery, but this should also be taken in moderation.

CARBOHYDRATES
Carbohydrates when broken down in the digestive system will form glucose, which is the essential source of energy and tissue protein. Our central nervous system-the brain and the spinal cord-depends on glucose for energy requirements, thus without carbohydrates, our body slows its alertness and dropped down the level of normal functioning. Carbohydrates rich foods are whole grain cereals, brown rice, bread, pasta, corn, beans, peas, potatoes, fruits, vegetables and meat products. These foods when taken are slowly broken down into glucose and absorbed by the body. But carbohydrates should be aided by soluble fibers to aid the proper digestion process. Soluble fibers include apples, strawberries, oats, citrus and other fruits. It will help support the body by slowing down the process of glucose thereby lowering cholesterol level. Insoluble fibers in leafy vegetables, whole grain products help prevent constipation.
FATS
Fats can be classified as saturated, monounsaturated, polyunsaturated. Sources of saturated fats are eggs, milk and meat, saturated fats also contain cholesterol, which is manufactured by the liver and small intestine, by this reason, the body does not need cholesterol from food sources. When we consumed too much saturated fats, it will tend to increase lipoprotein (often called bad cholesterol) in our blood stream, this will leave additional coating of cholesterol in the artery walls and slowly clog the arteries. The narrowing of the arteries makes the heart to pump harder and refused to spread the supply of blood into other parts of the body, this activity leads to the tiring of the muscle of the hearts that causes heart disease and hypertension, other various diseases may drawn out also including obesity and cancer.

Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats (also called good cholesterol) can be obtained from vegetable oils, nuts, olives and avocados. They are essential fats that needed our body to store energy and renew body cells. Fats are the most important component sources of energy our body needed. It is important for the absorption of fat-soluble foods and supplements including Vitamins A, D, E and K, with out fats, these vitamins could not be absorbed fully by our body. Fats are important protectors of the human body from extreme temperatures of heat and cold.

PROTEIN
Proteins composed of complex nitrogen-containing compounds that build and repair body tissue. Proteins also form antibodies, enzyme, hemoglobin and hormones. Proteins also are made up of essential fatty acids which can be obtained from milk, eggs, meat and fish. Deficiency of protein can hamper growth developments and prevent the body to fight infections. But too much protein can endanger body’s functioning, because it will force the kidney to eliminate the excessive waste products.

THE THORNS AND ROSES OF BEING SINGLE AND MARRIED

Me, lalai and my sister. All singles!

Me, lalai and my sister. All singles!

In a marriage conscious society like ours, single hood is often compared to a malignant cancer that sends a horrifying response among individuals. Society dictates that a normal human being must be married no matter how complicated the situation is. Well, for idiot individual maybe this is true. But if your senses are intact, walking in the path of marriage unprepared is like walking in a landmine filled area. Everyday is like a blasting.

But there are people who really succeeded in torturing other people’s minds, I was not an exemption. Years ago I was surrounded with lunatic people that when I turned 30 the silly idea of single hood had sink horribly in my brain, I increasingly became erratic and edgy. The 30 figure alone terrifies me, as if I saw a serial killer and I will be the next victim. I was like a menopausal horse; I easily irritated, threw tantrums every 5 seconds of the day and flared up with no apparent reason.

But what is in single hood that makes every human being nervous? Is it a shocking fact to remain single for the rest of our lives? Or are we just pressured by the society to take the plunge? Just like marriage, single hood has its thorns and roses, the thorny situation in marriage is when problems burst up (which according to them, a normal thing to happen in any married couple) triggering a constant row that may resulted sometimes into a heated, emotional encounter, but there are thorns in married life that are impossible to imagine like those physically abusive partners, infidelities and financial difficulties.

For single individual, financial matter is not really a big thing. The thorny issue for singles is the constant battle of emptiness which lays on the emotional side of life, though it could be overcome with outdoor activities and winding up with friends, it still persists as days gone by. Marriage has lots of thorny stages compared to singles. Married people smell roses when fulfillment and contentment can be felt, the joy of motherhood and being a devoted wife, when waking up each morning knowing that they had partners whom they can share and talk with and spend the rest of their lives watching the sunset. There will be abundant supply of roses for single people also, the enormous value of freedom and the thoughts of having no other person meddling life, singles can go anywhere without thinking somebody might disapprove. There are lots of contradictions between marriage and single hood, it is hard to conclude which state is more convenient and more fulfilling, the most important thing is you know how to comfortably embrace each step you’ve taken and you know how to respond to every responsibilities attached whether you are single or married.

While marriage, to some people, is a happy state, it is not always a key to happiness. Couples who engaged in traumatic rows, infidelities and disillusionment are hardly an advertisement for happiness and satisfaction. Marriage is not a rest house or an assurance island when you want to escape from the harshness in life and want comforts. It is not a protecting arms and a loving machine when you are down or lonely and needed somebody to watch you crawl in bed in despair. It is an unconditional state where the two people gathered resources to make it work and spend the rest of their life watching how crazy butterflies danced in the backyard. Love is not enough, I bet, there’s a considerable amount of trust and respect you invest in order to go on with it.

Single hood on the other hand is another state, unfortunately this vocation treated by other with a cold heart. We leave in a very cruel environment where everybody expected to scramble in marriage no matter how difficult the situation is, a lot of crazy married individuals urged singles to trap themselves in marriage like them, they are engrossed with their own silliness that lured you to take the same road with them. Our morbid society dictates us that single hood is a lonely state and that it is best to grip ourselves in marriage. But it is a choice, a freedom to make a decision and nobody has a perfect authority to sermon you about happiness and satisfaction and contented and God knows what else.

Well everybody wanted to get married. Of Course. But that decision should be drawn from personal choices and not because of influences. It will be very comfortable if you plunge into marriage because you choose it rather than pressured from other sources. The two has both ups and downs and both tricky when it comes to freedom and satisfaction issues but both shared a common denominator: SACRIFICE. It’s on how you make and treat the state of sacrifice that makes each status smoothly running without being freak towards the end of the day.

After all, there are marriages ended up in misery and single hood in happiness. Whatever it is, the most important thing to remember is how prepared you are to take both responsibilities. Positive outlook, good disposition and strong faith in God are the best weapon to dance the right step and sing the correct tune of life whether you are single or married. At the end of the day, it is still the best weighing point where to find your own happiness without bothering whether you put the right make up or wear the right shoes.


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